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Are you taking one step forward and two steps back in finances, relationships, or some other area of your life?

Is something stopping you from succeeding?

You know what? It may be just your thoughts. Why not try this exercise?

Draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper. On the left, list all the negative thoughts you have about your situation. On the right, list all the positive thoughts you have about it.

Look at all the negative thoughts on the left. When you hold a negative thought up to scrutiny, it usually fades, doesn't it? Why is that?

Because many times, we hold a negative thought in our minds out of habit. When we give it a second look, we realize *Hey, that's not what I really want.*

For instance, you say *I can't do [this] because of [that].* Like, *I can't get a raise because they want me to travel.* Maybe when you hold that thought up to scrutiny, you see that they only want you to travel x amount of days a month -- or only go x amount of miles away. X amount doesn't seem so bad now, does it?

Or, *I can't take that job because they want me to work week ends.* Then, you look into it further and see that it's only one week end, every two months, which just might be acceptable to you.

Put your *I can't because . . .* up to scrutiny before you make a final decision. See if it's worth changing your lifestyle, or whatever, to do whatever it takes to go forward.

When you are aware that the negative thought is there, that is the first step toward changing. Whenever you have a *I can't because . . .* take another look. Maybe it's a *I'd rather not because . . .* If that's the case, check your priorities. Scrutinize your thought. Maybe a thought pattern took control of your life when you weren't looking. Keep holding it up to the light until it goes away. Maybe that will help you take two steps forward and none backward.

Work with it until all your thoughts are good. Have a great life!

Thanks for reading,

Jan

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Copyright 2005, Jan Tincher, All Rights Reserved Worldwide

DISCLAIMER: Jan Tincher and/or *Tame Your Brain!* do not guarantee or warrant that the techniques and strategies portrayed will work for everyone. The techniques and strategies are general in nature and may not apply to everyone. The techniques and strategies are not intended to substitute for obtaining medical advice from the medical profession. Always consult your own professionals before making any life-changing decisions.

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http://www.tameyourbrain.com/stress/index1.htm

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About the Author Jan Tincher, nationally recognized expert in Hypnotherapy & Neuro-Linguistic Programming, teaches strategies and techniques to help you live a better, happier life! She studied under Richard Bandler and Anthony Robbins, and has a successful practice in Forest City, Iowa. She is an award winning author, and you can read many of her articles at http://www.tameyourbrain.com/articles.htm . You can read what people say about her at http://www.tameyourbrain.com/testimonials.htm